I’m beginning a series today called “Love Your Breasts” and the first post will be on Small Breasts. I’m hoping to have other contributors for some of the other posts in the series. I’m imagining posts on Large Breasts, Experienced Breasts, Scarred Breasts, Unique Breasts, and whatever else my wonderful readers can relate to and feel passionate about.
I’m starting us off with small breasts because they are near and dear to my heart. Actually they are literally right next door to my heart. 🙂 Let’s chat! Here’s my story.
My Small Breasts Story
So where to start? I have small breasts. However, saying that prompts the question, “What counts as small breasts?” What I call small might be large to another. And what I call big might feel small to someone else. I am a 38B. I always thought of A and B cups as small. But from my extensive reading online it seems that many women with C cups think they have small breasts. And then I’ve had boyfriends tell me that my small breasts are not small. I guess it’s all relative. And it can also become an insidious cup that can never be filled (to use a pun), and hence all the breast implants out there.
Small Breast Beginnnings
When I was younger, having small breasts (and they were smaller then) really bothered me. I was bummed out that I didn’t get ones that were a little larger like my friends. The feeling is really hard to describe, but it’s a little like a sadness that stings, probably similar to grief because it’s out of your control. You can’t go out an buy the ones you want. (Breast implants were not an option nor would I have done it if they were an option. Getting implants seems scary to me, being cut open to put goo-filled plastic inside of your body just so guys can squeeze it. That never seemed worth it to me. I just wanted the real ones to be bigger. Was that too much to ask? I guess it was. 🙂 )
Hope Springs Eternal
For a while I lived in an intermittent hopeful state that maybe larger breasts would develop over time with enough wishful thinking. Funny thing is, having small breasts never kept boys from being interested in me, although from my perspective it felt like I got less attention than other girls. That was probably true, and it probably made my life easier in many ways not having to fend off boob-crazy boys. (Oh, but I would have liked to have done a little more fending off! 🙂 But, I know, I know, there were many benefits, which I’ll get to….)
Small Breast Acceptance
But like with grief, I eventually got to the stage of acceptance. I began to take a different view of my breasts. I realized that they were perfectly big enough for whatever function was needed. And speaking of function, when I gave birth to my son at age 38 I breast fed him and it was like an epiphany in my breast journey. I finally understood what they really were for. They are meant to feed and nourish a baby to health and strength and growth. Wow did that change my thoughts about my breasts.
Now I thought they were perfect and I had almost zero care what any man thought of them. I knew they were great and at that time I really didn’t want any other mouths trying to get a share of them. They were for my baby. It was work and it was often uncomfortable, but it was so relaxing and worth the discomfort knowing how life-giving they were. My baby exclusively breast fed for about 6 months and there after he would only eat small amounts of real food as he preferred nursing. He nursed until he was a little shy of 3 years old. Of course the last year or so was only at night before going to sleep.
Loving My Small Breasts Today
It’s 10 years later and now I’m back to appreciating breasts for their adult intimacy function. But I don’t worry about the size of them anymore. I figure it makes sense to believe my partner when he tells me he likes them. Why not believe it? Why doubt him? So I can be sad imagining some disappointment that he secretly harbors? That sounds like a really horrible waste of time! So I don’t do it. Life is too short.
I’m choosing joy and happiness and even if it’s delusional I’m choosing to believe that my breasts are perfect. (Just as every woman’s are!) I’m willing to be deluded if it means happiness. I like that choice much better than the alternative.
Benefits of Small Breasts
I would never say any size or type of breast is better than another, but here are some benefits of small breasts.
- Makes jogging and exercise easier.
- Hugging is tighter.
- Less staring from men when you don’t want it.
- Easy to hide when you don’t want to look sexy.
- Less jealousy from other women.
- Easier to go bra-less.
- Less likely to sag as much. (but we all will sag eventually! :-))
- They are very responsive to touch.
I know there’s more. What am I forgetting ladies? Share in the comments below, please!!
Confident Small Breasted Women
I’d like to end by highlighting some women celebrities that have chosen to embrace their small breasts, forgo the lure of breast implants and seemingly take pride in what they’ve been given. I choose to highlight them because I’m able to get pictures of them. If I could I would highlight friends and non-celebrities who do the same in “real life.”
I find it inspiring when women are confident in their bodies, regardless of their size or shape. Skinny, medium or large; small breasted, big breasted; bubble butt, tiny butt or somewhere in between; when a woman walks with “tall” with confidence and with a smile it should give us all the motivation and confidence to do the same. (This is why I love bellydance, because it celebrates all sizes & shapes of women, but that’s a topic for another day…:-) )
Here are some small-breasted women that inspire me because they are not afraid to be just who they are:
Mena Suvari (in American Beauty)
And I could go on and on, but I think the point is made here: Although large breasts are beautiful, so are small ones. It’s all in how you carry them, both in your mind and on your chest.
So whether you have small ones or big ones or some other variation, I hope you love your breasts! Life is short, let’s make it sweet and enjoy it!
Who’s next? Let’s celebrate more types of breasts!
If you’d like to write a post for this series, please send me a message!
What are your thoughts on small breasts? Or even breasts in general? Let’s chat: comments, Twitter, Facebook, G+. Can’t wait to hear from YOU!original photo by: wallygrom
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